“The Other Shoe” Phenomenon, Glass Half Full/Empty – Implant associated Lymphoma, Mr. Rogers
The summer is passing quickly. Many of you are likely already starting to prepare for the next 6 months – health, school, work, family, house, car, travel, and the Holiday season….etc!
Life can feel like a never-ending whirlwind at times – pulling you in many different directions, leaving you to organize and streamline the chaos.
Having been told that you have cancer, one of life’s “worst case scenarios”, you may have, unconsciously, lost trust in your body or life, and started to be more ‘on guard’, ready for “the other shoe to drop” or deal with whatever or whenever the next ‘worst case scenario’ may be. You may also know this as the Fight-or-Flight response. But this response can go into overdrive at times, affecting all aspects of your life, even the routine ones. Perhaps you used to be a glass-half-full person, but now you may have become more of a glass-half-empty person.
I hope this writing will allow you to try to Stop-and-Think-First before you act, when you feel your body tensing up for a ‘fight’….(unless, of course, there truly is a life-or-death emergency, like a lion chasing you!).
Pause to get yourself e.g. a delicious meal, a good night’s rest, a meaningful conversation with a loved one, whatever it takes to regain a more neutral and realistic perspective….and then rethink your decision-making again….you may discover that your glass is neither half-full, nor half-empty…..it may actually be refillable, maybe even to the top….!
Life is not always fair….some people may have more suffering on their path than others….but some may also choose to keep their suffering more private….please don’t give up hope….and find “neighbors” who can help you carry your backpack!
Won’t you be my neighbor…please? Please…find below a few things for education and entertainment!
Learn and Think:
Certain breast implants have been in the news this week due to a FDA recall:
Based on the currently available information, our analysis demonstrates that the risk of breast implant associated lymphoma (BIA-ALCL) with Allergan BIOCELL textured implants is approximately 6 times the risk of BIA-ALCL with textured implants from other manufacturers marketing in the U.S.
At this time, the FDA does not recommend removal of these or other types of breast implants in patients who have no symptoms due to the low risk of developing BIA-ALCL. The FDA will continue to evaluate any new information and may, as a result, take action regarding other breast implants, if warranted. Source
If any questions or concerns, it may be best to contact your plastic surgeon.
Live and Feel:
Lately, I have become fascinated with Mr Rogers’ legacy, probably encouraged by the upcoming release of the Its a Beautiful Day movie in which Tom Hanks portrays Mr. Rogers. Mr. Rogers courageously displayed his own vulnerability/sensitivity and preached “love” to encourage “being”, acceptance, respect, confidence, and health. His award-winning messages and poetry are simple, yet deep, and just as helpful as they were 50 years ago, independent of your age! His thought-to-be-last video message to his grown-up fans gently encourages “the expression of feelings in ways that will bring healing”.
Fred Rogers once said:
“Part of the problem with the word ‘disabilities’ is that it immediately suggests an inability to see or hear or walk or do other things that many of us take for granted. But what of people who can’t feel? Or talk about their feelings? Or manage their feelings in constructive ways? What of people who aren’t able to form close and strong relationships? And people who cannot find fulfillment in their lives, or those who have lost hope, who live in disappointment and bitterness and find in life no joy, no love? These, it seems to me, are the real disabilities.” Source
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The quote from Fred Rogers is something to really think about. I suspect that many people in our society/culture suffer from such “disability.” And this type of disability may be a matter of degree. It can start to creep into our lives; as it does so, we isolate, more and more. That is why we must step back, as Josie said above, “Stop-and-Think-First,” to reset our perspective. Meditation helps; so does a sense of gratitude for experiencing life.